A Year of Writing Prompts by Brian A. Klems and Zachary Petit
“You are given the opportunity to talk to one dead person and tell him/her one thing that you didn’t get to before they passed away. Who would you pick and what would you tell him/her?”
I have to say that I am blessed. Death is something I am not familiar with. At least, not when it comes to someone that is close to me. Sure, I have had the distant relative that I saw on an occasional Christmas or family reunion pass, but no one that was part of my every day. That being said my pool to pull from is rather small. Yet it doesn’t diminish the weight of my choice. If I wanted, I could choose from a dead celebrity who affected my life in a way that they will never understand, but has deep emotional meaning for me. (I’m thinking of C.S. Lewis by the way. If you were wondering.)
If I could talk to one person that has died it would be my grandmother. She lived with my parents and me for a good portion of my life. As I got older I started to be very disrespectful. My parents were good parents but a little lax and my grandmother would step in to take up the slack. She was never one for sitting idle. She bustled around the house, cleaning my clothes, and reminding me to do my homework. We both shared a love of the TV show The Golden Girls and every time I watch it I think of her.
It’s strange the things one remembers. For instance, the last thing you ever say to someone will live with you forever. (So make it good. ) I deeply loathe the last thing I ever said to my grandmother. “Do you want the TV on or off?” It was so cold. So empty. Absolutely worthless words. What’s worse is, she hadn’t been feeling well ever since her surgery, and instead of asking how she felt or spend any time with her I went to bed after my question.
At the time I had been working nightshifts at Best Buy, helping with the store remodel. It was good in the sense that I made a ton of money, but it destroyed any kind of living. I was awake long enough to work and when I got home I slept the entire day. It was a temporary thing, but horrible while it lasted.
On the last night of my over-night shifts my grandmother died. My mother had telephoned while I was working and left me a vague voicemail. It’s still a mystery to me why I never called her back, instead of just rushing to the house. Instead I did 65 on city streets until I pulled into the driveway. I’m certain that, in my heart, I already knew what had happened. Come to think of it, I had started to cry before I even knew for sure.
When I got home there were unfamiliar cars in the driveway. My heart began to go even faster. I could just feel it. I walked into a silent house. A small gathering of people had congregated in the family room. Then my mother told me the news. I wept and crumpled to the floor. It is the first and only time (so far) that I lost someone I really loved.
More than anything, if I could talk to her I would say that I’m sorry for how I treated her. Like I said, as I got older I started to rebel against her parenting. I got to be a dick and I regret that more than anything. More than our final, hallow, conversation. I wish I had said more to her before she died. I wish I could have told her that I did love her, very much. She had such a profound impact on my life. It’s because of her that I love to read, play cards, watch the tv show The Waltons. She was the first person to know that I wanted to be a writer. My grandmother read all of my stories and would tell me each time how good they were, even when they were most certainly not. I promised myself that if I ever had a book published I would dedicate it to her. Although, as of late, the project that has been begging to be finished (and very nearly is) would be something she would not read. I don’t think my Southern Baptist grandmother would really approve of a book about a gay boy who gets dumped and then grows wings. At least, one of the chapters she would just skip all together because of its explicit content.
I’ve heard some before me say that they wish they had told their loved one that had died who they truly were. I never got to say it, but I’m pretty sure she had a hunch. The woman’s room was right next to mine and I had a habit of talking late into the night to my husband on my cell phone. It’s strange to me that my husband even got to meet her once. He attended my high school graduation and unknowingly sat behind my parents.
My heart tells me she would have loved Charlie. To see how my parents love him… It shows me how powerful love is.